Every now and then you will wake up and feel like everything that you’ve done up to this point has been for nothing. That you’ve been working and working towards the life that you want and haven’t got any closer than you were when you first started the journey. Those mornings are the hardest ones to get through and some of us don’t make it through in the ways that we’d like to.
I’m not sure what it is with my generation but it seems like we hit 25 and feel like we are out of time. That by the time we hit our mid 20’s we’re supposed to have it all figured out. We think that we’re supposed to have that dream job, car and house before we really get close to our thirties. If we don’t then we feel like we’ve failed at life and that our dreams and aspiration go out the window like the previous years did.
That mindset is what our parents may call “being rational” but is it really rational? I mean, the baby boomer generation completely fucked up the housing market, the economy and the environment so the chances of us having the American Dream was already stripped from us when we entered this nightmare of a place. I digress.
What I am trying to say here is that giving up on ourselves and our dreams before we really chase them and accomplish them is absolutely irrational. That dream job comes from years of trying and executing! That dream house doesn’t come cheap but it won’t come quickly by working a dead end job that barely pays you enough to survive and as far as a dream car if you even have one, what I said about the dream house applies to this as well.
We are so worried about succeeding quickly and having these things before our thirties when truth be told things may not start kicking off until our thirties. Maybe our Twenties are supposed to be spent figuring out who we are, what it is that we want to do with our lives and taking steps towards making it happen. That way by the time we hit our Thirties , we have our feet wet and are running towards the dreams until they become reality.
“ Dreams are nice but you have to make a living” — Every unfulfilled person who wants you to be just like them.
Yes, you do have to make a living but think about what a living consist of. Think about the word Living itself and what that means. What does it mean to be alive? Is it going to a job that you don’t like so you can barely afford the place you stay in? Is it working 40+ hours at your day job and still having to choose between food or gas in your car? I don’t think so.
I’m not here to say that Freelance is the only way because it’s not but i’m also not going to hide the fact that these big companies were once a dream that someone had and did what it takes to make it a reality. You are what makes their dream a reality which is cool if you don’t really want more for yourself but kind of sad when you do.
Figure out what career field that you want to grow in and make a living on.
Apply to jobs that are in that career field and once you land that job you can climb your way to the top and make a living for yourself with them or branching out and starting something of your own.
If you want to Freelance, dedicate time to it and understand that it is not the easiest road to go down financially but with the right moves you can make it happen.
Do both: Part time work in your desired career field and Part time Freelance (which I hope is that same field). That way you can grow in your company, you’re surrounded by people who care about what it is that you’re doing which gives you connections and opportunities
There are so many ways to truly make a living instead of settling for survival and I know that the grey cloud mornings that tell you otherwise are hard to get through. They have a skill and that skill is making you think that there’s no better way and you feel stuck in a box.
However, You’re not stuck in a box… You’re stuck in your head.
You can do this.
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